What is a healthy relationship? 4 green flags to look out for

We learn how to add, subtract, read, and write in school, but sadly, we are never really taught what healthy relationships look like. We are left stumbling around, trying to figure that out on our own. Our parents, the internet, and our friends serve as reference points. Still, if they each portray unhealthy relationships, then, unfortunately, we are left to repeat behaviors that may lead us into relationships that are the equivalent of eating a whole tub of ice cream; temporarily satisfying, but in the long run, we don't feel good. This is why I wanted to share some positive signs we need to look out for:

1. Respecting boundaries: We are all different in what we like and don't like, so when someone understands and is okay with our limits, then that helps us feel valued and safe.

2. Healthy communication: Having a back-and-forth conversation where each person listens without interrupting the other is part of the equation, the other half is actually listening with the intent to understand. We want to put away our phones and listen with curiosity. If we listen with our own monologue running in the background or thinking about our to-do list, then we may miss important information the other person shares.

3. Autonomy: We all need time to pursue our own interests because we are individuals, and if your partner encourages you to spend time with friends and pursue your passions, then that's a green flag for sure.

4. Support: When times are tough, we need our support group to help us navigate those murky waters. Is your partner someone that you can turn to for support? If you know you can count on them to be there when you need to talk to them, or they make time to talk with you when you need to vent, that's a good sign.

Source:

https://umatter.princeton.edu/respect/relationships